Reverb 10, Day 16: Friendship (but not really)

Today’s Prompt Friendship How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year? Was this change gradual, or a sudden burst? I’m having trouble coming up with an answer to this one. I don’t think I had a perspective change that was prompted by a friend. Oh well, I can skip this one. I’ll go back to another one I missed but really wanted to do: December 4 – Wonder. How did you cultivate a sense of wonder in your life this year? Beginner’s mind I cultivated a sense of wonder by practicing “beginner’s mind.” This is one of my favorite takeaways from a mindfulness course I took: approach everything as if it’s the first time. The first time you tasted chocolate. The first time you saw a sunset. The first time you drove a car. The first time you brushed your teeth. When you do this, you are paying attention to what is happening in the moment. You become engaged in the NOW, and the past and future can’t bother you. Yes, him again (what can I say? He’s a fantastic life coach!) I had a great model for this in my nephew; everyday things became extraordinary as I watched through his eyes. Simple things, like flipping a switch and having light flood the room; falling leaves; clouds; trains. Usually, being stuck at a train crossing is incredibly annoying. Who has time to just sit and watch car after car go by for what seems like an hour (but is usually only a few minutes)? Well, my nephew does. He not only has the...

Reverb 10, Day 15: 5 Minutes

Today’s Prompt 5 Minutes: Imagine you will completely lose your memory of 2010 in five minutes. Set an alarm for five minutes and capture the things you most want to remember about 2010. Nothing like some beat the clock pressure to get you writing, huh? I most want to remember: Learning about sovereignty courtesy of Havi and Hiro. All the cute, smart, fun things my nephew did. The time I spend with my grandma. Feeling biggified* in my business. Discovering what I want to do with my life, career-wise (more on that to come). My vacation in Italy and Greece. Seeing the Vatican. My first wedding anniversary. A good friend’s wedding. Performing in “Lend Me a Tenor” in my first character role. Finding out what was wrong with me (hypothyroidism & fibromyalgia). Joining the wonderful community at the Kitchen Table. The time I spent with my good friend and mentor Nancy Miller before she died. That’s a pretty good list–very in keeping with yesterday’s post about how time spent with loved ones is what I appreciated most about 2010. *Havi’s fun word that replaces “marketing” and its squirmy associations. But What about the other stuff? As I went back through my year, I found a lot of stuff I’d love to forget. Well, not forget, because everything I experience shapes me into better and better versions of myself, but stuff to let go of and leave in 2010. Stuff like: Being at a very low point, physically and mentally, on my wedding anniversary. Panicking over financial issues. The pain of losing a good friend. The frustration and stress that...

Reverb 10 Day 14: Appreciate

Today’s Prompt Appreciate: What’s the one thing you have come to appreciate most in the past year? How do you express gratitude for it? I have really come to appreciate that the most important things in life can’t be bought. I started this year being frustrated at my lack of income, bemoaning all the empty time in my schedule and feeling guilty for not contributing to the family piggy bank. I was spending plenty of time caring for my grandma and nephew, but neither was generating the level of income I was supposedly capable of obtaining. Then one day a few months ago, it hit me: the opportunity to make more money in the future would always be there, but this time with loved ones was fleeting. Grandma My grandma is 81 and suffering from post-polio disease. She’s still in her own home but moving around is very difficult and sometimes scary. I spend the mornings and early afternoons during the week with her, assisting with showers, exercises and doctor appointments. Most of the time I’m just there in case she falls or has some other trouble. As she loves to tell me, her days are numbered (“I don’t think I can last more than another year, Christine”). Of course, neither of us can really know when her (or anyone’s) time will be up. Until then, I treasure every moment I get to spend with her. In the end, those moments are worth more than any salary. My favorite little guy The same is true for my nephew. He’s two now and these early months and years will never...

Reverb 10: Day 13

Today’s Prompt Action: When it comes to aspirations, it’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen. What’s your next step? Good question. I am all about great ideas. I am much less about making them happen. Well, I am less about making them happen for myself. I’m good at helping other people make their ideas happen. I have had so many ideas for growing my business over the last year and have never gone beyond the brainstorming stage with any of them. I read countless blog posts and articles on how to deal with this (mainly, read fewer articles and produce my own content), so I have the know-how. I just need the action-how. Aha! Over the last month or so, I’ve come to realize why my current business has been so stalled. Sure, there were my health issues that made getting the basic things done difficult. There was the shiny object syndrome (alright, I’m sitting down to flesh out idea A. Oooooh! Idea B looks so much more exciting. Repeat.). But really, what was going on was that some part of me knew that my Great Work lay somewhere else. Once I discovered “what I really want to do with my life,” the role of LMWS became clear: it was my starter business. As such, I wasn’t meant to pour my heart and soul into it. I was to use it to learn about being an entrepreneur, to try things and fail and try some more, so that when it’s time to launch my GW business, I’ll be well-prepared. The learning curve will be much less steep....

Mad Love Monday #36

A collection of all of the random things I loved on the internet in the previous week (or so), and why you might love them, too. Or at least crush on them. Write on (pun intended)! I’ve long been passionate about this school of thought (yes, another pun, I know): students learn better through concrete examples than abstract ones. For example, instead of showing a student what an outline for a paper should look  like, give them a written paper and have them extrapolate an outline from that. I have used this technique to great effect with my clients. I’ve heard this before in different forms, but what really got me were the three steps to take to fix the biggest marketing mistake almost everyone makes. Umm, what? This post on A-list blogging was written by a 16-year-old? Actually, I’m not that surprised. Believing in the intelligence of teenagers is one of the main reasons I want to work with them. You may have seen similar posts before, but jump on this one so you can say “I knew him when. . .” * * * Have a madly marvelous...